As school begins for some and approaches for others, I would like to take moment to address some issues that may have been filed away in an effort to enjoy the summer. While students file into classrooms and pick up where they left off with their friends and classmates; there are other, more ominous relationships that will continue as well, the relationship between the bully and the bullied. In the interest of making sure that we know what is going on with our children, we should understand the signs and symptoms of being bullied, along with strategies for intervention.
If a child is being bullied, they may not necessarily come right out and say so. It may be up to us as adults to read between the lines and figure out when a child is having an issue. This is also when knowing your child becomes essential. There is no laundry list of behaviors that I can give you that will symbolize that a child is being bullied; however there are some behaviors that may suggest there is a problem. However prior knowledge of the child’s disposition is always helpful. For example, one of the symptoms of bullying is a child becoming shy and with-drawn; if this is a part of the child’s personality already, it is probably nothing; if this demeanor is new, then it is probably a red flag. Below you will find a list of behaviors that may be associated with bullying; please use them wisely and take the child’s personality into account when applying them.
-child has become shy and withdrawn
-child no longer wants to attend school
-child has become fixated and begin to come home talking about one child’s treatment of them constantly.
-child may no longer enjoy things that they once enjoyed.
-sudden change in grades and/or school attendance.If you notice that your child is exhibiting these behaviors, please talk to the child and try to ascertain what may be going on. If you determine that further intervention is needed please seek help, and do not try to tackle the problem alone.
Carolyn Strong, BulliesStink Founder & Author
Carolyn Strong, MAT MEd